Wednesday, December 4, 2013

December IWSG: Difficult Decision

I've been blogging since 2010. Not as long as some of you, but I've put in three great years. When I first began my blogging endeavor, I had the sole purpose of promoting my writing. The results haven't been exactly what I'd expected. To my knowledge, I only sold two books to fellow bloggers (and to you both, I give you my heart <3).

My blogging endeavor morphed into a way of connecting with like-minded, writerly folk. I've met some fabulous people via blogging, and for that, I'm eternally grateful. But lately, trying to keep up with all the social media, writing, family, trying to run my own yoga business, and life in general, I feel like this...

I realized, something has to give. I have to keep in mind why I began blogging in the first place. My writing. 

I applaud those of you who have the ability to do it all. Y'all rock.

After realizing blogging (at this point in the game) isn't selling my writing, but keeping me in contact with other writers, I've come to the difficult decision to cut back. Way back. 

I need to spend more time writing. In the end, I don't want to go out as a blogger. I want to go out as a novelist or a picture book author. Big dreams, I know. But if I don't honor my dreams, no one will do it for me.

I've decided to only post once a month. I know some of you will scoff. Others will think I'm making a mistake. But I hope most of you will understand. To make the most out of my blogging endeavor, which is now solely for the purpose of connecting, I'll only post the 1st Wednesday of the month, in conjunction with IWSG. My goal is to visit as many blogs then, as possible. 

For those of you who are not familiar with the Insecure Writers Support Group (IWSG), please visit the link and discover a fabulous group of supportive people. I cannot say enough about them! Check out the IWSG Facebook Page, too.

This isn't the end. It's merely a new beginning.

Hugs & Write On, Y'all~


  1. We'll miss you, but if you got into this to write, and it's keeping you from doing that, then you need to make some changes.
    Thanks for keeping the IWSG as your one day.

  2. Totally understand Candilynn, there are so many demands on our time these days. I think of things to write every day - blog posts, messages to friends, story ideas - and I only finish maybe 2-5% of them and that's only when I'm slacking off at work (like i am now!) I'm trying to churn out an IWSG post but it doesn't appear likely. :(

    Blogging and social media are a great way to meet other writers and other people in general, but if it's distracting you from what you want to accomplish as a writer then by all means (re)prioritize. I'm sorry it hasn't led to the sales you hoped for but for what it's worth you are one of my favorite bloggers and I've missed commenting/connecting with you. Hope you'll stay in touch :)

    1. Aww, Chris, thank you for that. It means the world to me. Really! I hope to make the most out of time. I did a little trial during November, and my outcome was great. I busted out over 28k, and came up with 37+ new picture book ideas. Now, it's time to sit and write.

      Btw, you're one of my favs, too!

      Now, quit slacking and get to work. :D

  3. Thanks for your support, Alex. I'm hoping by keeping my post on IWSG post day, I'll be able to keep up with my blogger buddies and reach out to newbies along the way who're seeking support. :)

  4. I understand, Candilynn. Life is busy. We are always here for you. You made the right decision for you. *HUGS*

  5. Whatever works for you, because we know that the blog beast requires lots of food!

  6. This is exactly how I'm feeling right now, too! I don't know how other people do it all. I can't keep up! Gah!

  7. I hear ya. I started blogging to write, and before ya know it, you're writing to "please" and you lose yourself. We bloggers should reflect "us" andnot what we think others may want to hear. I applaud you, and best wishes!

  8. You do what is best for you. Good luck.

  9. We all understand, Candilynn, and I agree with you. Take the precious time you have and write. As much as I like to connect with people it does tend to take away what little time I set aside for writing. Good Luck!

  10. There's definitely pressure to stay connected and support the community once you're in it, Candilynn. I've gone through the same thing (multiple times)--it just burns you out. It makes you feel guilty and basically a bunch of things that aren't related to writing at all. Which stinks, because writing is why most of us started blogging.

    My advice: Do it at your own pace. Don't pay attention to what others are doing. Comment back on blogs you want to comment back on (and have time to do so). Try to figure out the aspects you enjoy, and what you'd like to share. Then do that.

    Always temper your expectations, however. Doing it your way won't necessarily net you the most blog followers, the most exposure, or the most friends. But it'll be something that won't drag you down.

    We'll be hanging out here when you do get back to it. :)

  11. I know exactly what you mean, keeping up with social media is hard and time consuming. I don't think a blog is necessary to a productive writer career. I've come to regard myself as a writer semi-full time (mom and wife share that honor, too), and part-time blogger. Whatever you do, do it because you enjoy it, then that'll be the fruit of your labor.

    Best of luck!

  12. Someone posted a great quote on Facebook recently. (I know, the irony isn't lost on me! Haha.)

    "The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel." ~ Steve Furtick

    I don't think anyone is actually managing to do it all. Not successfully anyway. I totally understand how you feel. I'm seriously stressed to the max at the moment with keeping all the different balls I'm juggling in the air. The most important thing is to decide what is most important to you and concentrate on that. ❤

  13. I wish you the best, Candilynn. I hope your new strategy will give you enough time to write wonderful stories. You will be missed.

  14. I'm on hiatus now, and I'm cutting back when I return.
    Iotally understand. Totally. ;)

  15. If you love to write, the urge will find you each and every time. You should never chase the muse, it will find you when it's ready to continue, and we'll all be out here, ready to participate.

  16. I've been blogging for a while now too, but not to sell books (because I don't have any finished yet! Oh no, another insecurity!) but because I enjoy it. I'm just finding that I enjoy it more if I do it less, or at least if I blog on my own schedule. I hope you find the same, because I would miss you if you left entirely.
    Happy writing! :)

  17. I totally understand this--when blogging keeps you from doing other things, it's time to cut back. I will look forward to your monthly check-ins!

  18. I totally understand your reasoning. But the people in this community can be so supportive, generous and helpful, I'm not sure I could get along without them. Still, writing is the most important, so cut back on blogging, but don't forget about us and come back as often as you can!!

  19. That video is so funny! I don't blame you at all. I couldn't imagine having a job on top of this or novel writing. Do what you have to do :0)

  20. I understand your decision. Blogging takes up a lot of time, if you're doing it right, which I think you were doing. But priorities are priorities, and you gotta do what you gotta do.

  21. Don't sweat it Candilynn… do what's best for you. At some point we have all cut back. I used to spend half my day blogging and posted EVERY DAY for almost two years. I am know down to three times a week IF I CAN. It's not easy juggling so many things.

    I may have to cut down in the new year too. I have to complete a rewrite on my second novel, plus collaborate on a novel beginning in January with a fellow blogger. NO TIME. So we are all there.

    Happy Holdiays, Sweetie, and ALL THE BEST!!!

  22. I understand completely! I hope you find your extra time to be productive.

    Have a blessed new year!

  23. Hey Candy!

    I know this post is a month older, and you might not read this comment due to other circumstances, but I just wanted to let you know, I support you, and your decision and wish you the best of luck.

    I completely understand where you're coming from, and may end up doing something similar myself. Blogging is great, and the network you make is amazing, but juggling too many balls is going to cause one to fall sooner or later. You have to prioritize, and make sure you're not neglecting important things.

    If that means only blogging once a month, so be it. It's better to blog once a month, and still be able to maintain your business, wiring, and family commitments, than to put out half-hearted blog posts every day and the rest of your life suffer.

    Best of luck to you, and I'll be sure to keep in touch on social media.

    Lots of love to you.

    <3 <3 <3